Let's face it, how often do you get disappointed, confused, or frustrated when you tried to do good to someone else? We've all been told to avoid being selfish. Those who care to learn deaply about how life unfolds are quickly confronted by the Law of Sowing and Reaping also known as Karmic Law: "For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap" in hundredfolds. What should you do if you are experiencing disappointment, confusion, or frustration when dealing with your fellow human being?
In Life, You Only Have to Deal With Two Things. In this life, everything that you will ever have to deal with at any given time will fall into one of the following two categories: (1) Things that are withing your control and (2) those outside of your control. The frustration, confusion, and disappointment that you are experiencing when dealing with other people stems from the fact that other people fall in the second category (Things that are outside of your control). Albert Einstein is credited with saying that "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results." Stop Wasting Time and Energy
If you truly want to preserve your sanity, it should be clear by now that you most stop investing your limited amount of energy and time in things that are outside of your control which include other people. The sad reality is that you don't have the power to control or let alone change someone else. People change at their own pace depending on their own set of life experiences and desires. Your hopes and aspirations for someone else may not be consistent with their desires regardless of what they say.
The only thing in this life that you own and control is yourself, therefore you will be best served by focussing on becoming the best human being possible and your ideal self. The only three tools at your disposal for transforming yourself into the ideal human being that you aspire are your thoughts, your words, and your actions. You have the power, control, and choice to keep your thoughts, words, and actions positive, negative or mix and match them as you please. Invest your energy in getting to know your own flaws, weaknesses, and work on getting better while sustaining your qualities. Don't worry about what anyone thinks or says about you. If you imagine your ideal self as someone who is honest and sincere, then start practicing honesty and sincerity until they naturally become one with you. You can make a list of virtues and qualities that identify your ideal self and start working on making them become one with you or part of your identity.
Inspire and Transform Your Environment
Remember that when you succeed, you will become a source of inspiration for many who, just like you, want to be better people but just don't know how to. People change when they are inspired, and people are inspired by something or someone they can emulate or model after. When you become the best human being you can imagine, transforming your environment and others becomes effortless and natural. I am sure you have heard stories of people whose presence in a room is nothing short of inspiring and transformational. They seem to have this aura of grandeur and nobility that attracts many. With their presence, one can see the true beauty and manifestation of the Law of Attraction. Similar virtues attract and the strongest will always attract the weakest in a healthy and noble sense of domination. You too have the same power and capability of becoming one of them if you do so wish.
Dealing With Things Outside of Your Control
Things outside of your control can fall into one of the following categories: (1) Add Value or (2) Don't Add Value. It becomes your individual responsibility to identify and only engage with the things that Add Value to your new self and life. As far as everything that doesn't add any value to your life, avoid it at all cost. This includes other people regardless of the type of your relationship with them. In addition to other people, you don't have control over nature (like the weather), and man-made objects (money, cars, etc...).
You are more powerful that you think so use it wisely to transform yourself and your environment.