Let's face it, how often do you get disappointed, confused, or frustrated when you tried to do good to someone else? We've all been told to avoid being selfish. Those who care to learn deaply about how life unfolds are quickly confronted by the Law of Sowing and Reaping also known as Karmic Law: "For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap" in hundredfolds. What should you do if you are experiencing disappointment, confusion, or frustration when dealing with your fellow human being?
In Life, You Only Have to Deal With Two Things. In this life, everything that you will ever have to deal with at any given time will fall into one of the following two categories: (1) Things that are withing your control and (2) those outside of your control. The frustration, confusion, and disappointment that you are experiencing when dealing with other people stems from the fact that other people fall in the second category (Things that are outside of your control). Albert Einstein is credited with saying that "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results." Stop Wasting Time and Energy
If you truly want to preserve your sanity, it should be clear by now that you most stop investing your limited amount of energy and time in things that are outside of your control which include other people. The sad reality is that you don't have the power to control or let alone change someone else. People change at their own pace depending on their own set of life experiences and desires. Your hopes and aspirations for someone else may not be consistent with their desires regardless of what they say.
The only thing in this life that you own and control is yourself, therefore you will be best served by focussing on becoming the best human being possible and your ideal self. The only three tools at your disposal for transforming yourself into the ideal human being that you aspire are your thoughts, your words, and your actions. You have the power, control, and choice to keep your thoughts, words, and actions positive, negative or mix and match them as you please. Invest your energy in getting to know your own flaws, weaknesses, and work on getting better while sustaining your qualities. Don't worry about what anyone thinks or says about you. If you imagine your ideal self as someone who is honest and sincere, then start practicing honesty and sincerity until they naturally become one with you.